Adults teach children in three important ways: The first is by example, the second is by example, the third is by example.
Barbara Nicholson, Attached at the Heart: 8 Proven Parenting Principles for Raising Connected and Compassionate Children
The pressures of being a parent are equal to any pressure on earth. To be a conscious parent, and really look to that little being's mental and physical health, is a responsibility which most of us, including me, avoid most of the time because it's too hard.
In achieving the depersonalization of childbirth and at the same time solving the problem of pain, our society may have lost more than it has gained. We are left with the physical husk; the transcending significance has been drained away.
Sheila Kitzinger, Women as Mothers
Women’s bodies were designed to birth. That’s a simple fact. You were designed to birth naturally. No experience or training necessary. There’s no special esoteric mystery about it. It’s a very simple every day fact of life. Millions of women have done it for millions of years. It’s a tremendous blessing but it’s also completely ordinary and normal and not only for a special few. You can do it too. I have absolute trust in that.
We are bent on weakening bonds in the name of growth and independence, then spend out adulthoods wondering why we have trouble getting close to other people.
Elizabeth Hormann, Breastfeeding an Adopted Baby and Relactation
Baby-led weaning is, it must be said, a somewhat cheesy term for just letting your infant self-feed. You cut food up into manageable sticks and offer it, they eat. It’s really pretty simple.
I never tecah my pupils, I only attempt to provide the conditions in which they can learn.
Research has shown that babies who are carried cry (on average) 43% less overall and 54% less during the evening hours. In cultures where babies are carried almost continuously, babies cry much less than those in non-carrying cultures.
Every child is different, but his needs are universal. All he wants is the nurture of a mother - and given in sufficient quantity, at an early enough age, he will grow up with security, and with responsibility for himself.
Deborah Jackson, Three in a Bed
The more power you give your child in any discipline process, the more likely he will be to be able to make it work positively for himself.
Hilary Flower, Adventures in Gentle Discipline: A Parent-to-Parent Guide
I’m always amazed when adults say that children “just did that to get attention”. Naturally children who need attention will do all kinds of things to get it. Why not just give it to them?
Lawrence J. Cohen, Playful Parenting
Roughhousing builds children's leadership by building their empathy and their confidence. If you start it in your family as a tradition, your children will deeply benefit, and so will you.
Patty Wipfler, Hand in Hand
The difference with EC is that your child knows all along that a diaper is not the only place to eliminate.
Christine Gross Loh, Diaper Free Baby!
Love, and the lack of it, change the young brain forever ... A baby’s ability to keep parents beside him has evolved not to serve whim but limbic necessity. Eons of experience direct his brain to hold open the emotional channel that stabilizes his physiology and shapes his developing mind.
Thomas Lewis, Fari Amini & Richard Lannon, A General Theory of Love
The children who are appreciated for what they are, even if they are homely, or clumsy, or slow, will grow up with confidences in themselves - happy. They will have a spirit that will make the best of all the capacities that they have, and of all the opportunities that come their way. They will make light of any handicaps.
Dr Benjamin Spock, The Common Sense Book of Baby & Child Care
Do not train a child to learn by force or harshness; but direct them to it by what amuses their minds, so that you may be better able to discover with accuracy the peculiar bent of the genius of each.
Plato (424 - 348 BCE)
Breasts cannot be considered a decorative design feature any more than the penis can. Breasts have served a life-sustaining purpose upon which the survival of the human species has depended.
Michelle Mattesini, Attachment Parenting UK Founder
To trust children we must first learn to trust ourselves...and most of us were taught as children that we could not be trusted.
A child whose life is full of the threat and fear of punishment is locked into babyhood. There is no way for him to grow up, to learn to take responsibility for his life and acts. Most important of all, we should not assume that having to yield to the threat of our superior force is good for the child's character. It is never good for anyone's character.
Some who support [more] coercive strategies assume that children will run wild if they are not controlled. However, the children for whom this is true typically turn out to be those accustomed to being controlled— those who are not trusted, given explanations, encouraged to think for themselves, helped to develop and internalize good values, and so on. Control breeds the need for more control, which is used to justify the use of control.
Alfie Kohn, Punished by Rewards: The Trouble with Gold Stars, Incentive Plans, A'S, Praise and Other Bribes
Where did we ever get the crazy idea that in order to make children do better, first we have to make them feel worse? Think of the last time you felt humiliated or treated unfairly. Did you feel like cooperating or doing better?
Jane Nelsen, Positive Discipline
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